Sometimes things don't workout, but it doesn't mean you failed.
It simply means something/someone wasn't a fit for you, and that's OK.
I wish I could say I've always seen my disappointments this way, but sometimes it's hard to see through the hurt. Sometimes I nail it and other days I'm full on "Britney Spears circa 2007." Ever been there??
Through a process of trial and error, I have learned that let-downs are actually RIDDEN with opportunity. Yep, you read that right.
Letdowns = opportunity.
Over the next few weeks, I'll be breaking down what to do when things don't go your way, and the different opportunities it presents into three separate posts. I can't wait to dive in with you. Today I'll be sharing about what disappointment has taught me about how to embrace the "Opportunity to Release."
Embrace the opportunity to RELEASE
Half of life is learning to loving who you ARE and RELEASING what you are NOT. That means respecting yourself enough to know who/what deserves your heart, time and energy, and what doesn't.
Hardship presented me an opportunity to RELEASE the heavy weights I didn't even know were holding me back.
Release Unhealthy Relationships
This is a tough one. Relationships are by far the hardest thing to relesase. Our heart wants to give and love unconditionally, so when it's broken it's easy to give up trusting people. But truthfully, we need people. We need to commit to closely assess both our own expectations and the type of people we let close to us if we want healthy relationships.
Many of our disappointments stem from latching onto the wrong people and expecting them to be something they’re not.
It's easy to put unrealistic demands on people and expect them to know and fill our needs. No person on this earth can fulfill the deepest needs of your heart! That can only be done by GOD, and by YOU recognizing and believing in your own worth. Careful not to put that pressure on a human who can't do the job.
That being said, the PEOPLE you're with will have more of a determination of what your future will look like than any other factor. The people you let closest to you should be people who believe in you, push you to be better, and stick by you in the thick and thin. Don't waste time chasing down people who don't have the desire to have the same depth of relationship as you, or character you want to reproduced in your life.
Release unhealthy relationships!
Release Time Suckers
Ever felt like you just don't have enough time for the things you want to do? Are you consistently running short on family time and/or alone time? Are you lost for hours online? Letdowns have a way of sounding the alarm when our balance of time is out of whack.
I learned this lesson the hard way. It took my family getting the scraps of my day, and me having a near breakdown from exhaustion to realize that there's a balance to how you spend your time.
You have to be the guardian of your own time, no one else will do this for you. If anything, people will constantly request more and more. You have to be willing to say a big fat NO to things that take away from your personal health, your family health, and your emotional health. Build in time for what's most important, and cut out what isn't. Instagram, overworking, incessent email checking, over-committing... pick your poison, and cut it off.
Release the time suckers.
Release Soul Suckers
Somewhat related to the above, you have to decide where your energy is best served. People will always try to rope you in to their thing. That's not necesarily a bad thing... but you must be RELENTLESS with asking if that lines up with your own vision for your life. If it doesn't, you need to be empowered to say NO, or one day you will look back and see you accomplished a lot of other people's dreams, or solved other people's problems... but none of your own. This leads to a myraid of frustration, bitterness and disillusionment.
Spend your soul on what YOU are passionate about, and don't comprimise. Your life is precious. Live it well.
Release The Good Ol'Days"
Sometimes you have to let go of what “once was” to embrace what “could be.”
It's ok to reminisce about the past... there's a lot of good there. But we are not meant to LIVE in the past. If we aren't careful, keeping our eyes focused on the past can keep us from experiencing what's NEXT. You cant drive forward while looking behind you.
There's MORE life to accomplish. You aren't DONE!
Release the past. Embrace your future.
I hope these few things give you the freedom in your heart to release the disappointment and move forward to a healthier lifestlye. They don't fix everything, but releasing unhelpful things can only push us forward. HUGS TO YOU today!